My name is Wendy
and I do the craft and school section of the Jamboree. I am one of a
family of five, who now live in France and run a small publishing
business. My mother is called Lin, my father Gareth, my sister
Bethan and my brother, Samuel. Our parents have been teaching us for the
past twelve years and here is an account of how we came to be doing this:
I was born in
Bristol 18 years ago, but my first memories are of York, where we moved when I
was very young. My parents had always disliked the idea of school and so,
when the time came, they sent me and my brother and sister to a Steiner school,
where my father was teaching. It was supposed to be a "good"
school, but this, I maintain, it was not. Better than others, maybe, but
it fell into the basic trap of separating parents from their children - which,
I think, is the worst thing that can happen to a child.
Despite this, I
was pretty good at most things, the teachers liked me, I had lots of friends
and was really the sort of child who adults could say about "she loves
school", because no one could tell from the outside how it made me feel on
the inside. And how did it make me feel? Very angry and frustrated
most of the time - not even I guessed that it was school! It was just
something that disappeared in the holidays and the rest of the time made me
argue with Bethan and Samuel and do every thing I could think of to annoy
them. When home education was suggested to me, it sounded like a good
idea, and the feeling melted away.
I can't even begin
to list the many advantages home has over school. It would take up too
much room and the home wins on every score. School (at the very best) is
a waste of time and the home has no limits to how good it can be.
Once I was at
home I stopped thinking about school and it was no longer an issue. The
morning was not something to be dreaded any more but something to look forward
to. Every day became exciting and fun.
I forgot about
all my old school friends and practically lost interest in them; I became best
friends with my family instead. Most of the time was spent in playing and
playing and playing! But we did lessons too, with our mother.
Perhaps the only
downside to our way of life was the fact that our father went to work every
day, and we saw little of him. One parent is sufficient, but two
create the necessary balance and I knew he wasn't happy with the
arrangement. So when, after a holiday to Brittany, we thought
about moving there, it came as a welcome decision.
We bought a
caravan, sold our house and set off for France with two pets: a guinea pig and
a budgie. It was the summer of 1994 and I was nine years old. The
weather was amazingly hot (for once!) and Brittany felt like heaven.
After a few weeks of fruitless searching for a house, we bought a piece of
bramble-covered land where we planned to build one. It was quite a mess,
but the situation was beautiful, so we started work and lived in a caravan on
site.
I think it was my
mother's idea that my sister and I could go to school in France. The
well-meant intention was, I suppose, to learn French, which is the reason why
nearly all English people send their children to school here. What they
don't realise is, that school just isn't worth it - there simply has to be a
more pleasurable way of learning a language. However, my memory of school
being pretty dim, I was keen to go. The first morning was quite fun. The
children were all nice and made me feel special because I was English.
Bethan's first morning was quite different. She came back in tears and
vowed never to go again, which she didn't. But school for me was an
interesting novelty, so I continued to go.
It was surprising
how quickly the novelty wore off. The children were still nice, but I
only spent the occasional half hour with them. The rest of the time was
spent in glazed-eyed boredom behind a desk, watching a man talking animatedly
in a language that seemed as foreign to the other children as it did to
myself.
The constant
fighting and aggressive 'playing' of the children in the playground, distressed
me, and when I saw one of them in tears, I was filled with such pity I nearly
wept myself. It seemed too sad to see only strangers there to comfort
them, when somewhere they must have parents who loved them, but were oblivious
of their needs. The teacher spoke to us as if we were a herd of animals
and treated us with no more respect. Individual feelings were ignored
just as they have to be when the ratio of children to adults is so unequal.
To see others
suffer became normal and, even worse, to feel myself suffer became
normal. The magic of life was leaking away. Days with school had to
be endured, not lived, until the days off came. And the days off were
spent in dreading the school days. Days were spent waiting for night and
nights were spent worrying about getting up in the morning.
Before I had
completed a term, I begged to leave and when the term was through I turned my
back on the school forever, not without a pang of pity for all the other
innocent children I left behind.
It was Winter and
the house was far from finished. We rented a flat in the nearby town and
every day my father cycled to our land and built a little more. He was
doing it single handed, and progress was very slow - I simply couldn't imagine
it ever being finished! Money was short and something had to be
done. For this reason we made a set of nine puppets, a stage, props,
scenes, and put together Rapunzel, in English, to tour with in the French
schools. We spent the next few years doing this, on and off, whilst
building the house the rest of the time.
We did several
tours round Brittany, in Paris and one in the South of France until the house
was finished, and then we stopped. Puppeteering was fun, but the downsides were
going into schools where we would usually get ill, and performing before an
audience who were not there by choice. We did our last show in 2000.
The next
project was our present project, to publish books on education. In the past
three years we have done five books, two websites, a magazine and we are now
working on a third book: "Unqualified Education". Our hard work
is starting to bear fruit. We live in a traditional stone house in the
beautiful Breton countryside, with a garden that is bringing us more fresh fruit
and vegetables every year. Each day I can spend as many hours as I please
out of doors, and the rest of the time I can do all the things I most enjoy.
I don't have any
qualifications in any subject, but I can paint and draw in most mediums; I play
the violin and the piano every day; I can speak French well enough, I am
learning Hindi and have just started Ancient Greek. I love cooking and
baking, I can grow things in the garden and I have read (and, more importantly,
enjoyed) English classics, such as Dickens, Austen and, of course,
Shakespeare. I know how to make embroideries, rag-rugs, baskets and I
have begun wood carving. I feel very experienced in the field of puppets,
performing and theatre; I know quite a lot about house building, and increasingly
more about publishing, writing, editing, proof-reading and illustrating books
and magazines.
Above all, my
desire to learn has not been quenched and the list continues to grow. I
know I am by no means especially clever or in any way more talented than anyone
else, the difference is merely that I have been able to spend my time as I
wished. The periods of my life that I have spent in school have been some
of the unhappiest, and it was impossible for me to do anything creative whilst
going there.
Schools may well
have the potential to be good, but how they are at the moment is simply
inexcusable. I am filled with sorrow when I think of all the years wasted
within those walls and I sincerely hope that those who have been through the
system will somehow realise the lies they were told every step of the way.
Somehow I hope
they will be able to find the strength to turn away from what people tell them
to do and bring their own children up in whatever way they feel to be right.